Mentor Support-Finding the Right One for You!

Find a mentor who can be your role model and your friend!

A mentor is someone you admire and under whom you can study. Throughout history the mentor-protégé relationship has proven quite fruitful. Socrates was one of the early mentors. Plato and Aristotle studied under him and later emerged as great philosophers in their own right.

I was fortunate enough to have several mentors – each for a different purpose.

  • Dr. David Schwartz, author of The Magic of Thinking Big, was my doctoral dissertation chairman and was the impetus and the motivation to finish my PhD in Marketing and to enter the world of public speaking as a profession.
  • Bill Gove, the first president of the National Speakers Association, mentored me to speak from my own style – a NYC Italian – rather than a stiffer, more professorial style. The results were dramatic and my speaking career and success moved into hyper-speed.
  • Jim Cathcart, my close friend, confidant, and former business partner, taught me how to prepare for speeches and his unsurpassed business ethics served as my guiding light in my business dealings.
  • But, most of all, my main mentor was my mother – who taught me to always strive to be the best – to always be constantly improving myself and my abilities. My mother gave me the drive to succeed.

Some basic rules I’ve learned about mentors:

  • Be suspicious of any mentor who seeks to make you dependent on him/her. It is better to have him teach you how to fish than to have him catch the fish for you. That way you will remain in control.
  • The best mentors are successful people in your own field. Their behaviors are directly translatable to your life and will have more meaning to you.
  • Turn your mentors into role models by examining their positive traits. Write down their virtues, without identifying to whom they belong. When you are with these mentors, look for even more behaviors that reflect their success. Use these virtues as guidelines for achieving excellence in your field.

Don Hutson, CEO of U. S. Learning in Memphis, TN, offers these mentoring tips:

  1. Select people to be your mentors who have the highest ethical standards and a genuine willingness to help others
  2. Choose mentors who have and will share superb personal development habits with you and will encourage you to follow suit
  3. Incorporate activities into your mentor relationship which will enable your mentor to introduce you to people of influence or helpfulness
  4. Insist that your mentor be diligent about monitoring your progress with accountability functions
  5. Each party – mentor and protégé – should commit to confidentiality, when appropriate, due to the closeness of the relationship
  6. Encourage your mentor to make you an independent, competent, fully functioning, productive individual

 Questions to ask. Acquiring good habits from others will accelerate you towards achieving your goals. Ask yourself these questions to get the most out of your role-model/mentors:

  1. What would they do in my situation?
  2. What do they do every day to encourage growth and to move closer to a goal?
  3. How do they think in general? In specific situations?
  4. Do they have other facets of life in balance? What effect does that have on their well-being?
  5. How do their traits apply to me?
  6. Which traits are worth working on first? Later?

Under the right circumstances mentors make excellent role models. The one-to-one setting is highly conducive to learning as well as to friendship. But the same cautions hold true here as for any role model. It is better to adapt their philosophies to your life than to adopt them.

Who have been the mentors & role models who have impacted your life?

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About Assessment Business Center
Dr. Tony Alessandra has a street-wise, college-smart perspective on business, having been raised in the housing projects of NYC to eventually realizing success as a graduate professor of marketing, entrepreneur, business author, and hall-of-fame keynote speaker. He earned a BBA from the Univ. of Notre Dame, an MBA from the Univ. of Connecticut and his PhD in marketing from Georgia State University. In addition to being president of Assessment Business Center, a company that offers online 360º assessments, Tony is also a founding partner in The Cyrano Group and Platinum Rule Group--companies which have successfully combined cutting-edge technology and proven psychology to give salespeople the ability to build and maintain positive relationships with hundreds of clients and prospects. Dr. Alessandra is a prolific author with 27 books translated into over 50 foreign language editions, including the newly revised, best selling The NEW Art of Managing People (Free Press/Simon & Schuster, 2008); Charisma (Warner Books, 1998); The Platinum Rule (Warner Books, 1996); Collaborative Selling (John Wiley & Sons, 1993); and Communicating at Work (Fireside/Simon & Schuster, 1993). He is featured in over 50 audio/video programs and films, including Relationship Strategies (American Media); The Dynamics of Effective Listening (Nightingale-Conant); and Non-Manipulative Selling (Walt Disney). He is also the originator of the internationally-recognized behavioral style assessment tool - The Platinum Rule®. Recognized by Meetings & Conventions Magazine as "one of America's most electrifying speakers," Dr. Alessandra was inducted into the Speakers Hall of Fame in 1985. In 2009, he was inducted as one of the “Legends of the Speaking Profession,” in 2010 and 2011 he was selected as one of the Top 5 Marketing Speakers by Speaking.com, and in 2010 Tony was elected into the inaugural class of the Sales Hall of Fame. Tony's polished style, powerful message, and proven ability as a consummate business strategist consistently earn rave reviews and loyal clients. Contact information for Dr. Tony Alessandra: • Dr. Tony’s Products: http://www.alessandra.com/products/index.asp • Keynote Speeches: Holli Catchpole: Phone: 1-760-603-8110 ● Email: Holli@SpeakersOffice.com • Corporate Training: Scott Zimmerman: Phone: 1-330-848-0444 x2 ● Email: Scott@PlatinumRuleGroup.com • Cyrano CRM System: Scott Zimmerman: Phone: 1-330-848-0444 x2 ● Email: Scott@PlatinumRuleGroup.com

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